Monday, July 13, 2009
I don't think I will ever understand how some seem to consider friendships to be disposable. To me, friendships are one some of life's greatest treasures, never to be taken for granted or treated lightly, certainly never to be thoughtlessly tossed aside when the selfish perceived usefulness of the friendship is over.
Some seem comfortable to profess friendship only when they need you, and then drop you when someone else comes along, or their need is filled, or it is no longer convenient. Give and take exists in all relationships. Some are just more interested in taking than giving.
I understand that all relationships evolve over time. I know some can drift apart for a lot of reasons. What I don't understand is how someone. with whom you have shared and enjoyed so much, can so quickly turn a cold shoulder or begin to ignore someone they once claimed as a friend. I hope I never understand this. It is not my nature. Short of an egregious betrayal of friendship, I just don't get it. Even then, I, by nature am quick to forgive. I may be more careful with such an individual, but wouldn't automatically exclude them from my life.
A few years back, a lifelong friend enticed me to leave a great job, friends, and a city I loved to move across state and work for his company. I prayed extensively about it and felt it was right on all levels. Within six months, he "terminated my position." saying only that "it was a lot of little things." It was hurtful in many ways, but I made the decision that I would not let it ruin a friendship that had spanned decades. We are still friends, and have since done several business transactions together, although I go in with my eyes wide open. In the long run, it was a huge blessing to have made the move and also to still have our friendship.
With some friends, years can pass with little or no interaction, and you can pick up right where you left off. I love these kinds of friendships. They are only possible when bridges haven't been burned.
I know I might come across a bit whiny or needy, but I don't really think that is the case. I simply enjoy friends and don't think I could ever have too many. I hope to never take for granted the friendships with which I have been blessed. Friends are the strawberries in the cereal of life.